Angry Teenagers: What Does It Mean?

Anger is a dangerous emotion and can cause teenagers to act out physically and verbally in a very damaging way. The one good thing about a child who expresses his anger is that it is an indication of a deeper problem and you can get to a solution more quickly. Teenagers who are extremely angry could be victims of abuse, suffering from depression, abusing alcohol or drugs, dealing with grief or other problems.

If your child is expressing bouts of anger, take a look at this behavior and try to determine what situations bring out the anger. Don’t fuel the anger by elevating your own emotions. Of course, if your child is causing physical harm to someone in your home, you need to take action. Even then – keep it calm – just do what you need to stop the abuse from occurring.

Talk to your teenager when emotions aren’t so high. Try to understand where they are coming from and really listen. Ensure they understand that mentally and physically abusive behavior isn’t acceptable. If they feel angry, give them the opportunity to express it or if they feel like they just need a bit of time alone, allow them to get that. Harassing an emotionally-charged youngster isn’t going to solve anything.

Depression: If you think your child is depressed, it may not be as easy to sit down and talk to your child about it. In cases where children are abusing drugs or alcohol (which can also be a sign of depression), they are aware that they are participating in forbidden behavior (doing drugs or alcohol). When someone is depressed, they may not be completely aware or may have a harder time talking about it.

It is important to keep the lines of communication open with your teenager. If they’re feeling down, help them talk about it. In most cases, these feelings are temporary and kids can snap out of it with a bit of compassion and understanding. In other cases, it may be an indication of actual depression that may need professional help.

Signs of Depression: Teenagers get moody, but if these symptoms become persistent it might become problematic.

  • Sadness &/or crying.
  • Feelings of hopelessness
  • Loss of interest in regular activities
  • Lack of energy
  • Change in sleep patterns
  • Change in eating habits
  • Not interacting with friends
  • Low self-esteem
  • Sensitivity to rejection
  • Missing a lot of school
  • Inability to concentrate

If your teen has any of these symptoms on an ongoing basis, talk to your doctor or other trusted professional. They can refer you to a counselor or other professional to get your child the help she needs. When you decide to get your teen help, talk to your teen about it and be sure to give them some say in what steps are taken or they may be resistant to help.

About Aurelia Williams (27 Posts)

Aurelia Williams is a Certified Life Coach, Parenting Expert, Internet Marketer and Podcaster. Aurelia is passionate about helping women and is always looking for ways to lend a supportive hand to others in order to make their lives a little less hectic and a lot more enjoyable. She is the owner of Parenting My Teen which is a resource site and podcast. Her site is jammed packed with anything you as a parent of a teen are dealing with on a daily basis. She offers a fresh perspective on the parent-teen relationship and also offers wonderful tools, resources and advice.

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  1. 1

    Great post on a very important topic Aurelia. Parents need to keep a close eye on their children in order to deal with these and other issues as they crop up.

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    Wade Balsdon says:

    Anger in a child is not a pretty thing to watch. Kids generally do not have the necessary coping skills to deal with anger. My daughter has anger issues and we have to help her deal with it before it gets out of control.

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