How to Grow through Family Opposition of Homeschool

Are you committed to homeschooling but your spouse, parents or friends are not so supportive? Being in disagreement or feeling the friction can sometimes be unbearable. It can also bring up self-doubt and make you question yourself at times, especially on those days that don’t look so “schoolish” or when you find yourself searching for answers.

I’m sure you’ve done your due diligence, but there may be more you can do to raise your Homeschool IQ and find a place to be in agreement. With extended family and friends it may mean agreeing to disagree. Below are three resources to help you raise your Homeschool IQ and then three steps you can take to be in agreement.

Resources to Increase Homeschool IQ

1. Subscribe to newsletters on the subject of homeschooling. This will show you how you can simplify your homeschool experience yet accomplish the highest results. Look into the different types of education and choose what’s best for your family. Keep it simple and consider self-education as a core. Get your questions answered and discover the details of how your children can learn more through self-education. Self-education and mentoring is a model of learning where children experience and develop critical thinking skills providing a greater opportunity for today, their future and ultimately their success and happiness.  

2. Read the book, Dumbing Us Down: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling by John Taylor Gatto. In this book you will find out exactly what is happening in compulsory schooling and through John’s 30 years of experience as a teacher and knowledge he shares what should be included in education, very strongly stating: “ways to make learning happen is not to teach.” This is mandatory reading for any parent considering homeschooling. Also read the article written by Chris Klicka, The Myth of Teacher Qualifications. This article sites several examples in reference to the myth of needing a a license to teach in order to be an effective teacher.

3. Listen to the best interviews of well recognized professionals like Dr. Stephen Covey, Jack Canfield, John Assaraf, Robert and Kim Kiyosaki, Sharon Lechter, Wally “Famous Amos”, and many more speak on homeschooling, the importance of and how to via podcasts at

“I’ve never let my schooling get in the way of my education.” -Mark Twain

 Three Steps to Agreement

4. Talk it out with your spouse or relative who is opposed to homeschooling.

  • Why is your partner against homeschooling?
  • Have there been any negative experiences with homeschooled children?
  • Do they harbor any beliefs or myths about homeschooling?
  • Are there extended family members who are against homeschooling such as a grandparent?
  • Does your spouse think that it will be too much work?

Find out the reasons why your spouse or family is against homeschooling. Don’t worry if you don’t have all the facts needed to address their concerns or issues. Just keep things positive so that together you can find the answers. As you grow and evolve in your homeschooling, the answers to many of the objections will be resolved, relationships will strengthen and you will be a better home educator in the process.

5. Do your diligence. 
Research the facts about homeschooling. There are so many answers online to explain the common myths and why they are wrong. Talk to other homeschoolers locally, on the telephone or even through online forums. Find local homeschool groups in your area that offer resources and support. This needs to be a combination of focused effort on your part to do the research coupled with the support and guidance of others.

6. Discuss with your spouse, ideas of the education you wish for your children. What might it include as well as the experience and opportunity you want for your children as they complete their schooling.
Is it possible with your current living situation to have the children home with at least one parent?
Can both parents collectively guide the children in their education? Sometimes one parent is stronger in specific areas of knowledge than the other. Do you like to learn and seek to educate yourself for your own curiosity and desire to grow and succeed? Children learn what they live. Will they see you reading and seeking knowledge as well? Write your ideas down and even create a pro/con list. Seeing it on paper can make it even clearer so that an agreeable decision can be made.

May you find your way to the best possible solution for you, your children and your family.  Remember, every family is different and the beauty of homeschooling is being able to embrace everyone and their unique situation.


Parents Inspired to Action:

  • Take time to increase your Homeschool IQ with the resources found above.
  • Do your due diligence so you can answer questions in an educated manner rather than reactive and emotional.
  • Be open minded to hear other people’s concerns and be sure to consider their concerns as possibly something you still need to look into if you haven’t already.


Children Inspired to Action:  

  • Listen to what your children are saying about the matter. They know when there is friction so it’s very important that adults handle the situation respectfully and in a timely manner.
  • Take your children to a meet up with a homeschool group or homeschool family in your local area. Let them meet other children who are homeschooled and share the possibilities.
  • Begin reading aloud to your children. Choose a book that the whole family can enjoy together as Dad or Mom reads aloud. This will strengthen your bonds and forge memories that will last a lifetime.

What have you done to increase your Homeschool IQ? In what ways have you been open to other’s concerns without letting it become a negative influence? Please join our inspired families share by leaving a comment below.

About Donna Vail (63 Posts)

Donna Vail is an education-parenting specialist, coach, mompreneur, homeschooling mother of six children, author and founder of An Inspired Education. She helps families create a lifestyle of true freedom by balancing education, work and life through self-education, entrepreneurship and inspiration. She is a highly sought after consultant for her successful guidance and resources that enable parents to let go of traditional parenting and education models, creating a lifestyle of learning where the whole family flourishes. Donna consults families around the world who all repeatedly express their restored confidence in homeschooling, parenting and personal development. In 1995 when homeschooling was little known to the masses, Donna traded in her daily commute to the office, to work from home and homeschool her children. For the last 17 years, she has successfully homeschooled her children and now through her writing, speaking, workshops, special programs and private consults coaches parents around the world to success in their homeschools. Her passion for education excellence has her constantly researching and developing new ways to support and nurture children. She lives an Inspired Education with her husband and children in Plano, Texas. Connect with Donna and access her wealth of resources at her website: An Inspired Education.

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    Wade Balsdon says:

    Great post Donna. I home school my twin and anytime that I feel like wavering I just remember the dangers that kids face at schools in my country.

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      Donna Vail says:

      Thanks Wade. That is reason enough. The climate of danger is continually rising. I am grateful for all families who have chosen to homeschool giving their children the gift of childhood. This becomes one of the most meaningful things we can do in life.

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