How to Prep for Parent-Teacher Conferences

It takes a village to raise a child. It’s an old adage, but the spirit of the statement is true regardless of the era. Advancements in technology allow us to check-in remotely, but we still aren’t able to physically be in two places at once. We simply can’t watch over our teens every hour of every day.

During the school year, the “village” is made up of parents, band or theater directors, coaches and teachers. We rely on the full village to help us shape our teens academically and personally. We trust educators with our teens, but how often do we connect with them? Do we really make the most of parent-teacher meetings during the school year?

As a teacher myself, I’ve experienced every type of parent during parent-teacher conferences. I’ve met with the helicopter parent, the tiger parent, the overworked and disconnected parent and even the disinterested parent. Fortunately, these are the outliers.

Most of the time, I have the opportunity to meet with loving parents who simply want to touch base to understand what their teen is up to during the day. And let me tell you, if you show up to a conference taking this approach, you will establish a fantastic rapport with your teen’s teachers. If you are present, engaged and demonstrate that you want to help your teen become the best possible version of him or herself, the conference will be a success. Be sure to arrive prepared for the meeting and, perhaps most importantly, don’t forget to continue communicating with your teen’s teacher even after the conference ends. From the perspective of both a parent and a teacher, I recommend asking your teen’s teachers the following questions:

  • What are my teen’s strengths and weaknesses?
  • Are there any behavioral issues or red flags that I should be aware of?
  • Do you have examples of my teen’s classwork or homework that you can share?
  • What are your grading criteria for assignments?
  • What can I do to help support classroom activities?


Don’t hesitate to take notes during the meeting, as teachers are likely to share a lot of information in a brief period of time. Also, try not to interpret the constructive feedback as negative criticism. I realize that as parents, we want to hear that our teen is an exceptional student, but that may not always be the case. And finally, be conscious of the teacher’s meeting schedule; teachers often have back-to-back appointments and must stick to a set schedule. That said, in the event that your meeting is shorter than you would have liked, don’t hesitate to follow up! If you feel like you have more to discuss at the end of your meeting, you can always ask the teacher to schedule a follow-up chat at a later date.

Teachers are very understanding of parents’ work schedules, so if you have a concern and are not able to schedule an in-person meeting, send your teen’s teacher an email to check in and see how things have progressed since the last parent-teacher conference. Believe me – it is much better to stay tuned into what is happening in your teen’s life in real-time, as opposed to learning about it when it is too late.

As parents, it is up to us to develop relationships with those who interact with our teens in their daily lives. Teachers are a big part of the village. Speaking as a parent and a teacher, I can assure you that it is a good idea for the two parties to make an effort to collaborate whenever possible. Talk to each other. Brainstorm with each other. Support each other. Your teen will benefit from it!

About Tammy Walsh (6 Posts)

I am a mother of two boys and a high school math teacher with a real passion for working with the Five Moms to educate teens and parents on issues that may not be on their radar - such as OTC cough medicine abuse.

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